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 Loving God Unconditionally

          There are times when I have been mad at God.  I just did not understand why He allowed certain things to happen to me in my life.  Why all the pain, the sorrow and the suffering?  This thinking made me feel so far away from God, but I didn't think that He really cared anyway.  Then God reminded me of the fact that He loves me unconditionally.  He loves us all unconditionally.  He loves us when we sin.  Yes, He still loves us when we miss it.  He loves us when we do the right thing.  He still loves us when we do the wrong thing. He loves us when we win and He loves us when we lose.   And so in the same way that God loves us unconditionally, He wants us to love Him unconditionally.

Now that sounds funny, doesn't it?  Loving God unconditionally?  But God does not do anything wrong.  In John 10:10  Jesus says that  “It is the devil who comes to steal, kill and destroy, but I Am come that you might have life and have it more abundantly.”   We know that God does not sin.  We are the sinners, but it seems like God is “doing us wrong” when we get laid off and lose our job.  It seems like God is doing us wrong when we don’t have enough food, when an earthquake, a flood or a tornado destroys our home and all of our possessions.  It seems like God is doing us wrong when a family member is murdered, when a mother or father dies, or even when one of our children dies.  This is where loving God unconditionally comes in. 

That is when we have to “forgive God” for allowing that bad thing to happen and say:  “OK, Lord, I don’t know why this devastating thing happened to me, but Lord, I trust You.  I trust in You that You know everything and that somehow, some way You will make lemonade out of these bitter lemons.  I trust that You will somehow cause something good to come out of this terrible situation.”

            I work at Oral Roberts Ministries at the Abundant Life Prayer Group  and one day I prayed with this mother named Allison (changed her name to protect her privacy) who lost her 4 ½ month old baby daughter who died just three hours after she left her at the babysitter’s.  That was four months ago.  The baby’s name was Elizabeth (also changed). The babysitter laid the baby on her stomach and evidently she couldn’t breathe.  The autopsy said that she died of sids.   As I talked to this grieving mother four months after her baby's death, she was still dealing with a whirl of emotions.  Allison was upset at the babysitter.  She missed her baby so much.  She was not sleeping a home anymore because the quietness of the home reminded her that her baby was gone and it was so painful for her, so she was staying at her mother’s house.  So her husband was living at home alone.  I am sure that he missed his baby daughter as well.  and probably fearful that he would now lose his wife.

Why Does God Allow Terrible Things to Happen in our Lives?

           Well, for one thing, God has given us all a free will and many times we take that free will and use it to sin against God and other people in our lives.  We listen to the devil and do what he wants rather than what God wants.  I really believe that if that babysitter had been listening to God, she would have heard Him say over and over and over:  “Go check on the baby.  Go check on the baby.  Go check on the baby!”  But she didn’t and the baby died while lying on her stomach.  She couldn’t breathe.

It doesn’t seem right.  It doesn’t seem fair.  The mother trusted that babysitter and she let her baby die.   When bad things happen to us, the devil wants us to get mad at God and turn our backs on Him.  He says, “God doesn’t love you.  If He did then that terrible thing would never have happened to you.”    But that is when you have to trust God and love Him unconditionally.

That is when you have to say:  “OK God, I forgive You for not intervening and for not saving my baby and allowing her to die.  I forgive You and now I am going to trust You and receive comfort from You." 

            You see, that is why it is so important to forgive God and turn to Him because the Bible says that He is our Comforter.  He is the One that can soothe our emotions in His manifest presence. He is the lover of our soul, especially during the hard times

But the devil does not want you to forgive God and love Him unconditionally.  The devil’s plan is for you to blame God and get mad at Him and turn away from Him.  Then the devil’s plan is for you to turn to drugs or alcohol.  He wants you to get so wasted that you will  get so messed up in your emotions and in your brain that you will not know which way is up.  The devil wants you to fry your brain like an egg on a frying pan with drugs.  Then he wants you to get some demonic suicidal thoughts so that you will end up in hell – for all eternity.  That is the devil’s plan.   I don’t want any of you to go that way – not ever.

When Bad Things Happen, Blame the Devil.  Don’t Blame God.

When bad things happen, that is when you go and blame the devil instead of blaming God.  When bad things happen, that is when you turn TO God and not away from Him.  When bad things happen, that is when you run into God's loving open arms because it is the devil that did the evil thing - not God. Then you praise and worship the Lord even when you don’t feel like it.  Then you get to a place where God can pour out His manifest presence upon you and comfort you.  He is the Comforter. God wants you to get drunk in the Holy Ghost!  There is no high like the most high.

Times When I Had to Love God Unconditionally:

  • When my mother died of bone cancer on Jan 5, 1994  I had to love God unconditionallyI was going to RHEMA Bible Training Center at the time and the Dean pulled me out of my 3rd hour class to tell me the news.  I was shocked.  I just saw her four days before on January 1st.  From her bed where she was bed-ridden and suffering in pain, she kissed me ten times.  I guess she knew that she wasn't going to me again.  But I was believing God for her to be healed.  I prayed and prayed for her to be healed and God did not heal her.   I had a choice -  to either get mad at God and turn away from Him or  forgive God and love Him unconditionally.   I don't know why God did not heal my Mom.  But I know that God is still the healer.   I pray for people to be healed on the phone as a prayer partner and many times people get healed after I pray for them.  They receive their healing by faith - the power of God touches them and they get healed.  It is not me. I just pray the prayer.  It is God who does the healing..   So I had to trust God even though I did not understand why my mother died at age 51 and I was only 24.  So I found the following scriptures below and stood on them.  The Lord also prompted me to praise and worship the Lord every morning before I went to Bible School. And His manifest presence came upon me like a blanket of comforting warmth filled with His love and peace.

         The Bible says in Matt 5:4 - Blessed are they who mourn, for they shall be comforted.

         Isaiah 66:13 - As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you.

        Isaiah 41:10 -  Fear not, for I Am with you, do not be dismayed for I Am your God.  I       will strengthen you.  I will help you and I will uphold you with My righteous right hand. 

  • I had to love God unconditionally when the engine went out on my car and I had no money to fix it.   It was not worth it to repair it anyway because it was so old.  So while I saved money for another used car,  I had no car from October 2004 until mid February 2005 during the cold snowy winter.  I had to walk everywhere for four months and I was a prayer partner praying with people on the phone 40 hours a week. It was hard. It was cold - bitter cold and icy a lot.  It did not seem fair.  I knew that God could move on someone's heart to bless me with some money. God could do anything.  It didn't seem fair.  No one felt led to help me out.  I felt like I was going through some kind of persecution.  In this circumstance I had to choose to love God unconditionally.  Then God prompted me to read:  2 Corin. 11: 23 - 30  about all that Paul suffered.  I realized that I was not going through anything compared to Paul and God's grace was indeed sufficient for me.  I became determined to serve God and pray for and minister to people no matter what, even if I did not have a car.  The other prayer partners gave me a ride home from work every night for which I was so very grateful.  I kept saving my money and worked a lot of overtime until I finally saved $600.  At the end, one dear sweet lady named Mary Manes gave me $100 to help me out so that I could get a '98 teal green chevrolet cavalier for $700 that I drove from 2005 until 2008 - when the head gasket and the engine went out.


  • Even now when I am still not married    I have had so many broken hearts and so many disappointments in this area. I've also suffered the judgmentalism from married people who see me as "less than" or like some kind of outcast.   They don't know what it is like to be single for so long.  They have never experienced the depth of the brokenness, the loneliness, or the sorrowful pain of waiting for so long.  It does not seem fair.  So in this circumstance, I have learned to love God unconditionally as well because I know He could bring me my "Mr. Right"  if He really wanted to.  I have had to love God unconditionally for making me wait so long.  So I receive Him as my Comforter and my husband (for now). Maybe it is not God's fault at all, but it is the guy's fault who won't  listen to God and ask me out.  Or more likely it is the devil's fault because he is filling the guy's mind with lies.  I don't know. But I do know that I hear about a lot of marriage problems on the phone at work every night.  I hear about all the husbands that flirt, lust, and commit adultery on their wives.   I  know firsthand that the divorce rate is 50%.  What ever happened to those wedding vows of  "forsaking all others, for richer or poorer in sickness and in health till death to you part?"  I guess I am old-fashioned.  So I am cautious and yet I still want to be married to "the one" that God wants for me.  I've received so many prophetic words that I am going to be married.  (They cannot all be wrong.)   Sigh.     So until then I stand on  Isaiah 54:5:   "For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of Hosts is His name."

           So in these three incidences, I had to choose to love God unconditionally.  He is God.  I am not.  He knows everything and I only know a little. So when all these terrible things happen to any of us, what should we do?  Well, that is when we need to trust the Lord even more.  This is where we have to really really trust God more than we ever have before. That is where real faith begins.  That is when we trust God when we do not understand. 

That is what Proverbs 3:5-6 says:  “Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not to you own understanding.  In all of your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.”

God is the one that sees everything and knows everything.  He is omniscient and omnipresent. He is the Alpha and the Omega or the beginning and the end. 

          So to get back to my story,  I prayed for this grieving mother that she would be comforted by God's love so that she could go home to be with her husband.  I knew that she needed to go back to the house even if it was quiet.  She does not want to lose her baby and her marriage.  I asked her, "Do you have any praise and worship music?"  And she said that she did.  I said. "Even if you don't  feel like it, you need to worship God anyway and fill your quiet house with loud praise and worship music and make a joyful noise unto the Lord."    I told her that I know God’s character and I really believe that He wants to heal you and restore you and make it up to you.   He is the restorer of the broken places in our lives. So I believe that He wants to give you another baby, but you have to go back to your husband and sleep with him and do your part  in order for that to happen. 

She said,  “I’m 35 and I don’t know if I can have another baby. I think that this baby was my last chance…I think I’m too old.” 

I said, “You are not too old.  That is a lie from the pit of hell.  I really believe that if you go back home and worship the Lord and be with your husband that He is going to bless you with another baby. “

And then I encouraged her to go to church.  Then she told me, “Oh, I have been going to church.  I was not going before. No, I wasn’t.  But since the baby died.  I have been searching for God.  I don’t want Him mad at me.   I have been going to church every single week and sometimes twice a week.  I have even talked to the priest a few times.”

Now isn’t that something.  Allison is going to church now!  I wonder how long it would have taken her to go to church if her daughter did not die and everything was going OK in her life?

It says in Rom 8:28 that “All things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to His purpose.   

The Pain in Our Hearts Can Draw Us to God – to Search for Him

            I don’t know if this is true, but it seems that God allows bad things to happen in our life because the negative circumstances draw us to Him.  The pain in our hearts draw us to Him. We start going to church.  We started praying and reading our Bibles. We all of a sudden become desperate for Him when the trials and tribulations hit our lives.   We become born-again.  We receive Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior.  So the end result is we will have eternal life for all eternity.

I told Allison that since she has started going to church and has received Jesus as her Lord that now that she will see her baby again in heaven. 

            You may have a miserable life here on earth.  You may be suffering so much in many ways – emotionally and physically.  You may have a mountain of problems that you are dealing with, but here is the good news.  If you receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you may have a miserable life here on earth, but if you just hold on, then you will have a glorious joyful marvelous time for all eternity in heaven.  Now the most stupid dumbest thing you can ever do is to have a miserable life here on earth, get mad at God, reject Jesus as your Lord and then go to hell and have a miserable painful suffering tormenting eternity as well!  I mean that is the stupidest thing that you could ever do!! and yet people do it every day.  Multitudes of people suffer here on this earth, they don’t forgive, they get mad at God and then go to hell for all eternity and suffer there as well.  That is so stupid.

Do Not Be One of Those STUPID Ones!

Be smart and receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.  You will never regret it.  Serving the Lord and working for God is the most fulfilling thing that you will ever do.  As my boss, He always provides for me and His benefits are eternal.

Ps. 16:11 says that in God’s presence is fullness of JOY.  Let the joy of the Lord be your strength today (Neh. 8:10).

We need to be hungry for His Word and spend time with God and pray. We need to praise and worship Him everyday – even when everything is going wrong.

Heaven is the Place You Want To Be...

Heaven is full of God's presence, His holiness, His glory and His joy and peace.  It is where there is green grass everywhere, beautiful flowers that never wilt, beautiful fruit filled trees and rolling hills and beautiful majestic mountains.  Everyone has their own mansion in heaven too.  There is only light in heaven.  There is no shadow of turning because there is no darkness at all to made any shadows.  There is no pain  in heaven. There is no sorrow or sadness and God wipes every tear from your eyes.  There is joy and peace and the love of God fills the place.  This is where God wants you to be for all eternity - with Him in heaven.

If you have not received Jesus as your Lord and Savior yet, then it is most likely because your mind has been filled with lies regarding how God thinks and who God is and you have chosen to believe these lies as "truth" when they are lies.

The truth is - God is not like your earthly father.  God is Love.  God is always there for you.  God has time for you.  He is patient.  He is kind.  God is just.  

Let me give you an example.  The devil starts planting lies in children's minds when they are young.  Let's say for example, that your father was never around.  So in your mind, you may transfer what you think of your earthly father onto an image of your Heavenly Father causing  you to think that you Heavenly Father does not care about you and is not around.  You may even believe that God doesn't exist and if He did, then He does not care about you. 

Well, those are lies.  The truth is - God is love and He loves you and cares about you.  He is not happy with your father who was not there for you.  It was a sin.  And God wants you to forgive your father  or your mother for not being a good father or mother. Many times children have unforgiveness toward their parents or their mother of their father (or step parents) because they did not do for them what they believe should have been done.   There were so many disappointments and so many hurtful words spoken.  Maybe there was even abuse or neglect.  You see, many parents are not born-again.  So spiritually they are living in the Kingdom of darkness.  The hand underneath their puppet that controls them is the devil's hand.   So they do what the devil tells them to do with their children and that causes their children many times to experience great pain, harm and suffering, sorrow or sadness.  It is never fair.

Holding Unforgiveness Towards Anyone is Sin

And yet, while unforgiveness many times seems so justified, it is still sin.  And sin separates you from God.  As long as you have unforgiveness toward anyone, there will be sin and thus a wall that separates  you from God.   The lie is that if you forgive, then you are "letting them off the hook" and they are getting off  "scott free" and no justice is done for the wrong(s) that they did to you.  No, that is a lie.  God IS a God of justice.  The truth is - when you forgive, you are releasing that person that hurt you into God's hands.  You are actually putting them on God's hook.  The Bible says that "vengeance  is the Lord's and He will repay."  ( Romans 12:19).

You have to let God handle it all.  You have to allow Him to take the control to right the wrongs that have been done to you.  When you forgive the one or the ones that have hurt you, then the sin is gone and the wall that was between you and God is torn down.  Then the anger and the resentment melts away.  Then you will be able to feel God's love upon you and around you and in you.  Forgiving those that hurt you sets you free.  So do yourself a favor and forgive the ones that hurt you.  Then you will be setting yourself free and the other person will also be free to hear from God and understand how wrong they were in the choices that they made concerning you or the wrong they committed against you.

To Forgive Someone that Has Hurt You, Just Pray This Prayer:

"Heavenly Father, please forgive me for having unforgiveness towards _____________that hurt me.  Lord, You know what he/she did.  It hurt me so much.  It caused such negative consequences in my life.  I lost this and I lost that.  It was so horrible and it was not fair.  But I know that holding unforgiveness is a sin and it builds a wall between me and You.  And I need you.  I need Your love and Your grace in my life.  So now Father, I forgive _______.  I put him/her in Your hands.  I trust in You Father to right the wrongs that have done to me.  I shall not take revenge any longer through holding unforgiveness.  I shall not judge him/her either for what they did that hurt me.  I know that "vengeance is Yours.  You will repay."   Yes, I am trusting in You Father, that you will right the wrongs that have been done to me in Your way and in Your timing.   You will make it up to me.  You will repay me in Your own way. Thank You Father for loving me and thank you Father for forgiving me of all of my sins that I have committed against You.  In Jesus name I pray, A-men."

Now that you have prayed that prayer,  you will experience God's love  and His grace in your life in a new dimension.  

There are Four Points to the Gospel Message - Here is the Good News:

  • God loves you so very much.  He created you to fellowship with Him.
  • Your sins separate you from God, creating a wall between you, which makes Him sad.  
  • So He sent His Son Jesus Christ who was miraculously born and lived and then submitted to God and died on the cross shedding His holy blood which paid for our sins,  making a bridge between you and God.
  • You can be reconciled to God again through praying to receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and then you will have eternal life in heaven - and will be saved from hell.

You can receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior through praying this prayer:

How to Receive Eternal Life in Heaven:   AKA - Receiving Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior


      “Heavenly Father, I believe You love me and that Your Son Jesus Christ died for me on the cross for my sins and rose from the dead.  Jesus, I repent of my sins and I ask You to come into my heart and be my Lord and Savior. Holy Spirit, fill me with Your power.  Give me grace and strength, wisdom and zeal to live for You, Father. Give me good Christian friends.  I will go to church and pray and read Your Word.   Thank You Father God for loving me and for forgiving me.  Thank you for saving me from hell and giving me eternal life in heaven.  In the name of Jesus Christ I pray, Amen.”

I preached this message at a Loaves and Fishes food distribution to the poor on May 21, '08 and I hope that it encouraged you. If you prayed that prayer, e-mail me and let me know at:  This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.   so that I can rejoice with you.


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