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   I love homosexuals the way that God loves them.  This is not hate speech.  This is love speech.  If you love someone, you will tell them the truth so they can be set free, so they can have eternal life in heaven..  The following are some lies that many homosexuals believe and the truth that will set them free. Are you yourself struggling with homosexuality or homosexual thoughts?  Then continue reading.  It is not hopeless. God loves you and He wants to deliver you.  

Lies Homosexuals Believe:      Truth to Say to them:

I have had these homosexual feelings for so long.   I think that I was born this way.  I think that God made me this way.

Well, you may feel you were born that way, but I have good news for you.  You can become born-again.  And yet, despite the media’s spin, really scientifically there is no evidence for a gay gene. Actually, psychologists say that your sexual identity is socially developed.   During the ages of three to about twelve, when boys play with boys, their sexual identity is developed.   They look to men as role models. After boys go through puberty, their sexual hormones kick in and they start liking girls. If a boy’s sexual identity is not developed by then, they can turn to homosexuality because they are looking to bond with men and fill a void that was never fulfilled in their early years.   You were not born gay. Why would God create something that He calls an abomination?

If God didn’t make me this way, then why do I have these homosexual feelings?

Your homosexual feelings have been created through the lies of the enemy.  Because children are often afraid to tell how they feel, the lies remain covered. Many times men turn to homosexuality because of:

1. Perceived rejection from their father - which causes them to reject him back & then they reject themselves and their own sexual identity.

2. lies that were planted, internalized and believed in their heart when they were sexually abused as a child…and they never learned the truth.

3. lies that were planted when children made cruel remarks such as “sissy, gay, queer.”   Instead of learning the truth, they believed the lies.    

God wants to uncover the lies, reveal the truth  & set you free from all the demonic bondage.  God loves you & He wants you to change

I am not hurting anybody.  My gay partner is consenting.  So why should it matter?

You think that you are not hurting anyone, but how do you know?  Many people thought that saccharine was OK, but then they found out years later that it causes cancer. God designed your body to need sleep. If you don’t sleep for 24 or 48 hours, you will collapse and die.  God designed your body to need food and water.  If you don’t eat food or drink water for eight days, you will die. God designed the human body so that a man and woman could have sex to produce children.  If they don’t, the whole human race will die.  God did not design the body to be used for homosexual activity.  He calls it sin.  If you continue in this sinful lifestyle and do not repent of it, you may not die physically, but you will die spiritually.  In fact, many homosexuals get AIDS, so you may actually die physically, but if they repent before they die and get saved, then they will go to heaven. You may not think you are hurting any one on this earth, but you are hurting God, Who is in heaven. You are building a wall between you and God. It is like throwing bricks at His face. When you sin and do not repent, it makes God sad because He sent His Son Jesus Christ to die on the cross for your sins so that you could be set free and healed. You see, salvation is His free gift to you because He loves you. This is His mercy.  He also knows that if you do not repent and truly want to be delivered, then you will go to hell and suffer great pain and torment for all eternity. He does not want that for you, but that is what His justice demands.  You asked me why does it matter?  Well, your eternal destiny matters.  It matters to me and it matters to God.  The truth is - God loves you and He wants to be your Father, your Heavenly Father, and if you surrender your life to Him, He will make you into the man of God He desires you to be. Every day you need to read the Word of God, which will renew your mind with the truth and this will help you think godly thoughts and become the man of God that He created you to be through Christ Jesus.

These homosexual feelings are real. Since they feel so real, then they must be good.  They must  be right.

Well, let me ask you…Have you ever cut your hand with a knife?  Was it a good feeling?  Have you ever hated anyone?  Was that a right feeling?  Just because you feel or think something doesn’t mean it is true or right.  You need to know the difference between what the Bible says about you and what you may think or feel.  In Rom. 7:23 the Bible says that the spirit wars against the mind (or flesh).   Your spirit can tell you one thing and your mind will tell you another.  So we have to learn to sever (discern) between the flesh and the spirit  (Heb. 4:12).

I cannot bear the thought of breaking up with my partner in order to follow Christ.  That would break my  heart.

 (This is Susan Mulford speaking) I know that breaking up with someone you love is not easy.  I can relate to that because I have had several broken hearts before.  The best way to get over someone, I have found, is to think about the negative aspects about them and their character flaws every time you are missing them. For e.g., recently there was this guy that I was starting to really like who was a worship leader playing the keyboards at a church nearby.  I really liked him until on the third date I found out that he had been married and divorced 4 times and had 4 kids as well!.  Not ever being married before, I did not want to be anyone's 5th wife, nor a step-mom of four kids, even if he did not have custody, so I memorized the names of his 4 ex-wives (Cami, Emma, Vicky and Denise) and said them to myself every time I missed him or remembered the good times we had. This helped me get over him. Then I kept believing that Mr. Right would come into my life standing on Isaiah 34:16!  Singing and worshipping God and receiving His love through His manifest presence comforts me as well when I am feeling heart broken. If you are still feeling bad, eating chocolate or your favorite ice cream helps!  (Just remember to work it off through exercise!)   Also I encourage you to be thankful you are not a former Muslim coming to Christ.  They usually get totally disowned by their family for choosing to become a Christian.  It is a huge sacrifice for them, but they still follow Christ because they know that Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and the life.  He is the way to heaven.  If they did not make the huge sacrifice, they would go to hell.  It is the same for you.  In order to go to heaven, you must surrender your life to God and receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. Eternity in heaven is well worth every sacrifice you will make and well worth every broken heart you will have.

So, how can I be set free?  I don’t know how to not feel what I feel.  I don’t think that I can change.

If you sincerely want to change, God will help you change.  There are helpful resources available below that can help you.  God can deliver you from these feelings and from this lifestyle and He wants to.   First of all, you need to receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.  Then you need to renew your mind with the Word of God to break the lies of the enemy. 
Secondly, you also need to totally forgive your father who you feel rejected you; forgive whoever abused you, hurt you, or called you names.  Forgive them all and put them in God’s hands because Romans 12:19 says, “Beloved, avenge not yourselves (have no unforgiveness). Vengeance is the Lord’s and He will repay.”  God will right the wrongs that have been done to you.  The lies that were planted in your heart during this time need to be uprooted and the truth of God’s Word needs to be planted in.  
So you need to practice
spiritual warfare -     1.  Recognize the lies. 
Refuse the lies and any negative words spoken over you and 
Resist them and the devil will flee. 
4. Then confess the Word of God over yourself as to
who you are in Christ.  You need to believe and receive God’s love - the height, depth, width and length of the love that He has for you (Eph. 3:18). 
       Your identity needs to become rooted in who you are in Christ.  As you read and meditate on the Word of God and listen to anointed Christian praise and worship music your mind will become renewed. Then you need to understand the power of prayer and the authority that you have in the name of Jesus Christ.  You have authority to bind the homosexual feelings using the name of Jesus Christ.  And you have the authority to loose upon yourself the spirit of purity and holiness  in Jesus’ name. (2 Corin. 10:4-5)

This is what the Bible says regarding homosexuality: Rom. 1:21, 26-27   
1 Cor. 6:9-10
1 Tim. 1:10-11
Gen. 19:1-11   
Levit. 18:22, 20:3 
Judges 1

As a Christian witnessing to a homosexual who is open to listen, how do I help them see the truth?

     Perhaps the best way to help someone struggling with homosexuality is to ask a few questions to help them see the truth.  This also shows how much you love them and care about them:

1.  How old were you when you first believed you were a homosexual?

2.  Do you remember your first sexual encounter or first sexual act?

3.  What was your family life was like? Was your father around?

4.  How do you believe that you became a homosexual? 

5.  What do you think that God thinks about your behavior?


Helpful Resources

Dr. Richard Cohen is the Director of  the International Healing Foundation  
PO Box 901  Bowie,  MD  20718   
His website is:  
To e-mail Richard Cohen:
Dr. Richard Cohen  wrote the book:  "Coming Out Straight"  You can get it through Amazon:      
Read an article summarizing the book that I wrote to give an overview of it.

Real Soulutions Christian Counseling - Jayne Bowman, MA, LPC,   I highly recommend her.  She is a non-judgmental, merciful amazing woman of God.

101 Frequently Asked Questions About Homosexuality  by Mike Haley - A must read book.

        You will find here many testimonies of men who have been set free and are now living holy lives for the Lord.    Hope for Homosexuals . com  

An excellent website with a non-judgmental forum where you can talk through your feelings with others and find help and hope and restoration:

Exodus International    

 Find Help in your State:  

 Help By Phone:    

This is an excellent article for:  Transgender:  Hope for Those Who Desire Healing 

         Would you like to Receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Have Eternal Life in Heaven?  Then Pray this Salvation Prayer:  “Heavenly Father, I believe You love me and that Your Son Jesus Christ died for me on the cross for my sins and rose from the dead.  Jesus, I repent for all of my sins. I repent for all the wrong things I have done.  I repent for believing those lies and now I believe the truth.  Now I ask You, Jesus,  to come into my heart and be my Lord and Savior. I want to live for You.  Holy Spirit, come fill me with Your power.  Thank You for loving and forgiving me, for saving me from hell, and giving me eternal life in heaven.  In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.”

How to Be Set Free from Homosexuality 

It says in 2 Corin. 5:7 that when you pray to receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you are a new creature in Christ Jesus.  Old things have passed away;  Behold all things have become new.   Isaiah 43:18-19 says, ”Behold I Am doing a new thing, shall you not know it?  I will make a way through the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

The Truth Will Set You Free

Heb. 12: 6  says that God chastens those that He loves and scourges every son whom He receives. Without correction, we are illegitimate and  not sons.   Genesis 19:24 recounts God’s burning fiery destruction of the cities Sodom & Gomorrah ‘cause of their grievous sin of homosexuality.    Leviticus 18:22 – Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman. That is an abomination    Also Levit. 20: 13.  

Romans 1:21 –32 For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to Him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened.  Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools and exchanged the glory of God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.  Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another.  They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshipped and served created things rather than their Creator – who is forever praised.  Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts.  Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones.  In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion. Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, He gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done.  They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity.”  

Romans 2:4 says that it is God’s kindness that leads us to repentance.  

No matter how you feel or what the Media says and no matter what laws are changed to permit same sex marriages, homosexuality is wrong.  It is against God's Word.

So now that you know the truth, do you want to be set free?  Do you want to be sexually healed?  That is the question.  Assuming that you do and that is why you are still reading this, then keep reading.  God loves you so much.  Here are the steps to take:

First - Recognize the Root - Uncover the Devil's Lies in your own Mind

            Contrary to Media hype, scientific evidence has shown that there is not a gay gene.  Therefore, it has been proven that one is not born gay.  Perhaps the reason why you became a homosexual or a lesbian was because you either were rejected or “perceived rejection” from your same sex parent.  There are others who struggle with their sexuality because they were abused as a child or teenager.  Since they felt rejected, usually a spirit of unforgiveness developed in their hearts toward their father.  They got silently angry that he was not there for them or that he disappointed them too many times, etc.  Maybe that you. So instead of forgiving their father for not being a good father, they developed bitterness in their hearts (perhaps even subconsciously).  Instead of forgiving  (Matt. 6:14) and allowing God to become their Heavenly Father to fill up the voids in their hearts, they took vengeance on their own and  rejected back and put up an emotional wall of rejection towards their father.  And thus, as a child many chose to hang out with the “safe opposite sex” that did not reject them.  So now as these boys grow up to become men, they crave or long for acceptance and bonding with their father or other men that they never had.   They want that void, that empty place to be filled.  They long for acceptance from men.  To be set free, men must forgive their fathers for disappointing them and for rejection them and for not being good fathers.  Similar to those who use alcohol or drugs, the void in their hearts can really only be met by having a personal close loving relationship with their Heavenly Father.  God will fill be void to be your Father. You see, the Holy Spirit, who is also Your Heavenly Father, is the Comforter Who will fill the void and make you sexually healed and whole.  It's God's grace. It's His mercy. When you receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior, the Holy Spirit will come in and will begin the process to fill the void to make you sexually healed and whole.  God wants to pour out His loving caring warm manifest presence upon you to make you healed and sexually whole.  You can come into God's Presence through praise and worship.  I encourage you to get some really anointed praise and worship music to start your journey to wholeness.  Wash your mind with good anointed soothing slow praise and worship songs.  Spend time with God in His Presence. God wants an intimate relationship with you through the Presence and the power of the Holy Spirit.  The Holy Spirit is the Comforter. God wants to be the one to comfort you and heal you of your inner pain and rejection.

How To Be Set Free - 7 Steps to Freedom

1.  Confess your sin.  You do not have to go to anyone or to a priest.  In the privacy of your own bedroom, you can confess your sin to God.  Ask Him to forgive you that you believed the lies that the devil put upon you and you that believed in the feelings that the devil put upon you    I John 1:9 says that when we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us of all of our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.  God will forgive you.   If you are not already, pray this salvation prayer:

Prayer to Pray for Salvation:

“Heavenly Father, in Jesus’ name I repent of all of my sins and open my heart to let Jesus Christ come inside of me.  Jesus, I receive You as my Savior and as my Lord.  I believe You died on the cross for my sins and were raised from the dead.  Fill me with your Holy Spirit so that I may pray in tongues. Thank you for saving me in Jesus’ Name.

2. You Must Really Repent – or make a decision to turn away from this sin.  That means:

* Turn away from going to bars, ballrooms, public bathrooms, porn movies or parks....Turn to God for comfort.

* Turn away from homosexual friends and partners.  I know this will not be easy,  It may break your heart.  It says in Psalm 147:3  that "God heals the brokenhearted and He binds up their wounds."   One of the best ways to overcome a broken heart is to think about all the negatives about that person every time you find yourself missing them. Think about how eternal life in heaven is worth all the sacrifice and all the brokenhearted pain.  Time heals all wounds.  Keep thinking about how this is a new chapter in your life and God makes all things new.  Singing praise and worship songs will help and as His manifest presence comes, the Holy Spirit will comfort you. If you are still feeling bad, eating chocolate or your favorite ice cream helps!  (Just remember to work it off through exercise!)  You also need to stay away from or avoid anyone who will tempt or seduce you back into homosexuality.  (If you are roommates, then you should sleep in separate bedrooms or one of you on the couch and then get another place to live ASAP.)...and turn to God for the comfort you are seeking.

* Do not purchase or look at any more porn or homosexual paraphernalia....Turn to the Word of God for the comfort you are seeking.  Seek God's face.

3.  Take Authority Over the Demonic Spirits Warring Against You.

    Break Soul Ties (with your homosexual lover) in Jesus’ Name.

      Luke 10:19 says that through Christ, we have authority over principalities and powers and rulers of darkness and that means the spirit of perversion or homosexuality.  That power and authority comes through using the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth .  That name is like the power of attorney that has been given to us that the devil has to legally obey. Imagine yourself a policeman, a lieutenant in the Army, or a teacher that has authority over his students

Matt 18:18-19  Jesus said that these are the  Keys of the Kingdom –  “That whatever you bind on earth is bound in heaven and whatever you loose on earth is loosed in heaven… “  If you imagine yourself as a police officer – putting handcuffs on someone  – that is what “binding” means.  You bind or put the demonic spirits in handcuffs through the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth so that they cannot move.  You bind the spirits of perversion in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth and you loose the holiness and purity of the Lord upon yourself  in the name of Jesus Christ upon you.

Prayer for Deliverance:  (Say it with authority)

“In the name of Jesus Christ, I command the soul ties to be broken with __________(my former lover) in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth.   I take authority over and I bind every spirit of perversion, every spirit of homosexuality and lust and uncleanness.  I bind every spirit of sexual immorality that is warring against me, and in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, I command all you demons to GO!  I now loose upon myself the spirit of Almighty God.  I loose upon myself holiness and purity.  Father, set me free.  I command the soul ties with _______(your lover) to be completely broken in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth.  Father, fill the void in my heart with Your Love.  Set me free.  I walk in the ways of God and I am cleansed in the ways of God and I am cleansed from all the filthiness of the flesh in the name of Jesus Christ, I pray."  

4.  Renew Your Mind With the Bible -   2 Corin. 5:7 that when you pray to receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you are a new creature in Christ Jesus.  Old things have passed away;  Behold all things have become new.           

             Confess the Word of God over yourself.  Say these confessions out loud:

I am a new creature in Christ Jesus.  I bind the homosexual feelings in the name of Jesus Christ. I loose upon me holiness, purity and heterosexual feelings now in the name of Jesus Christ."

I am accepted by God.  I am loved by God.  He is my Heavenly Father.  I receive the Father's Love into my heart.  I receive the height, the depth the width and the length of God's love for me.  I am His son now.  God loves me.  Eph. 3:16-19.

I will flee sexual immorality and not sin against my own body, for my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, therefore I will glorify God in my body & in my spirit which are God’s.

I will have clean hands and a pure heart and will not lift up my soul to an idol (another man for gratification) and I will stand in His holy place.  The Holy Spirit is My Comforter.    Psalm 23:3-4

I will cleanse myself from all filthiness of the flesh and I will perfect myself holiness in the fear of God.  - 2 Corin 7:1

I will cleanse myself from dishonor and become a vessel of honor, sanctified & useful for the Master, prepared for every good work. 2 Timothy 2:21

I am walking the Highway of Holiness and I will not go astray.  Isaiah 35:8

I put on the whole armor of God to stand against the lies of the enemy.  I put on the helmet of salvation, the breastplate of righteousness, the belt of truth, my feet shod with the preparation of the Gospel of peace, and I am covered with the shield of faith that quenches every fiery dart of the evil one and I take the sword of the spirit, which is the Word of God that cuts down every lie of the enemy."  - Ephesians 6: 10

I stand against the lies of the enemy.  No weapon formed against me shall prosper.  Isaiah 54:17

I Am the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus

I always triumph through Christ Jesus.  2 Corin. 2:14

I can do all things through Christ Jesus.  - Phil 4:13

God has a plan and a purpose for my life.  His plans are for my good, to prosper me and not harm me and to give me a future and a hope.  Jeremiah 29:11

Homework  - Study the Bible and add to this list.  Add at least 10 more confessions of who you are in Christ.  You need to dig into the Word of God and study to find them for yourself.

5.  Praise and Worship the Lord

Praise and Worship is a powerful took to help you get set free from the demonic spirits.  Play worship music continually in your house on CD.

       When you praise and worship the Lord from your heart, the sweet manifest presence of God will come upon you – it’s the love of God.  It is bonding with your Heavenly Father through the power of the Holy Spirit.  His sweet presence will come upon you and heal your broken heart.  Receiving love from your Heavenly Father as you sing and worship Him and spend time in his manifest presence will help to heal and fill up the void in your heart.  Psalm 16:11 says that “In Thy Presence is fullness of joy.”

           The best way to receive God’s love through praise and worship is to put on an anointed slow worship CD and worship the Lord with the worship leader -  close your eyes, focus on the Lord and rest in God’s love as you as you think about His great love towards you, His goodness, His mercy and His great faithfulness.  Praise and Worship music is a powerful tool to help you get set free from the spirits of perversion and homosexuality. Go to for some great CDs

6.   Praying in Tongues

There is so much power in praying in tongues to help set you free.  If you do not understand about praying in tongues, see the info on this website about Praying in Tongues.  You are praying out the perfect will of God and the devil cannot understand you.   When you feel tempted with homosexual lust, pray in tongues.

To receive the Baptism of the Holy Spirit (praying tongues), you simply pray:  “Lord, fill me with the Holy Spirit, so that I may pray in tongues.”  To receive it, one must remember that it is a cooperation between them and the Holy Spirit.  The Holy Spirit will give you the syllables to say or the words and you must move your tongue or your mouth.  You receive with your spirit, so put your mind on the back burner and yield to the Holy Spirit in an attitude of peace.  Read the book, “Why Tongues?” by Kenneth Hagin.  That book will help you.

7.  Plead the Blood of Jesus Christ over Yourself

When Jesus shed his holy blood and died on the cross, He took authority over the principalities and powers and rulers of darkness.  So it is important to pray:  “I plead the blood of Jesus Christ over me and my household and over all of my possessions.”  When you do this, you are, in the spirit, applying the divine protection of the Lord over yourself and your household. Put on the whole armor of God like it says in Ephesians 6:10 - 21.





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